Statue of Puberty

What do you fear most?
Death? Failure? Ghosts? People? Pizzas? Roaches?

Most of us have some or all of the above fears rolled up on each other. We seldom realize the essence of all this though.

What is the purpose of this innate emotion? Everyone has some part of it governing their daily lives. A businessman fears a market collapse, a farmer fears famine, the army fears insider ambush, your mum fears you (or you fear her / your dad fears her).

We recognize the facts around fear being both positive and negative. During this stance we no longer have a problem seeing audacity and fear as one and the same. The problem therefore, lies in our thinking. As so many of us think, fear does not intend to stop us from doing what we should do. Fear also prompts us to act, which is where we could place courage. We often mistake courage to be the opposite of fear. Courage actually is positive fear (the opposite of negative fear). We tend to place courage as fearlessness because we don’t quite have that model of positive fear in our braincells. Hence, till the time we learn to think on the lines of positive fear, we cannot really begin to understand that we can positively enjoy being afraid. Make sense??

On the flip side, Yea enough!! we all know fear don’t we. Some shy away from admitting it, some quite fearlessly proclaim it. What do you think fear is all about?

Fear as it stands, holds two parallels. a) Real Fear, and b) Assumed Fear

The Real variety deals with knowing the consequence(s). You know you lie at the end of that cliff, hanging to your next breath essentially which is held around the tree root that you are dangling on to. The sure option that precides here is a fall = death (unless you’re Krrish or Poopman) OR rescue (self or otherwise). This is a Real Fear.

The Assumed stance comes about when we base our thoughts on probability. And that, with the proclaimed knowledge of being hopeless at Mathematics / Statistics, isn’t really a good idea.
You are standing in front of an audience of over a 100 people. You are to address a presentation/seminar. That funny feeling hits you. Anxiety coupled with darting and differed doses of simulated fear. The cause is unknown.

What do you think these two fear forms pronounce? Well, for starters it doesn’t do much. But looking deeper, we could actually reflect upon ourselves and have defined, the stems for our own living. We take fear as a single form of discomfort and do not think from the other side. Yes quite right, the positive side. Fear is a beautiful exponent of how much we can do. But that hardly comes through to our heads, does it?

There is so much to learn and do on the other side. If we don’t get ourselves to believe in the other aspect of fear, there’s no way to understand it. If we don’t understand fear, there’s no way we can understand our lives (which we seldom realize). Ask yourself the question Is Fear what life is all about?

Think about it…

Picked a nail out of my shoe yesterday and took a few steps ahead to realize that it went right into my goddamn skin. Who put that nail there I pondered. Nobody answered. I walked on.

We stumble upon these nails all the time, some prick, some pack a punch, some ruin your shoe, while a few others just don’t hit you. What do you do when you realize it’s there? You pick them out and keep walking. For someone else to fall on? maybe not!

These hinges mean a rat’s ass in our daily being. They really do. They just don’t mean a thing. So what we’ve done out of ignorance is discount and reward ourselves into falsified justice. Makes sense? I’m sure it doesn’t

Then there comes a bunch of beings who like to take the matter to highest court in their living space and fight for their right (of nonsensical justice?). This nail shouldn’t have been on my path. What just happened to my living space? Who has polluted it so much that I have to bear the brunch? … All this for the nail in the shoe and perhaps the skin.

Which of these categories do we fall under? How do we measure the level of involvement (or ignorance) in the riding scales of these events? Are we standing up to our principles? Or are we standing up to what we think fall in our living circle? Or are we standing up to nothing at all?

How many times have you been given a blind ear? Things just don’t go your way. So how do you handle them? Put your foot down and ask for justice (or take it in your hand)? Or choose to walk a fresh path (perhaps rerun the same path)?

We seldom realize the follies in our journeys in life. We cannot differentiate between our have’s and our be’s. The concentric Circles of Influence and Concern. Fact and Story.

COC
- If only I had a boss who wasn’t such an ass
- I would have been happier with that extra piece of garlic bread

COI
- I can be wiser
- I can be a smart worker

Fact
- Rhea cannot swim
- I flunked my finals

Story
- Rhea thinks her dad hates her coz he threw her in the baby pool.
- My dad’s gonna kill me

For all the men and women in the building …

• GROW UP and smell the air around you. Life ain’t that hard. You define most of it. If you choose to live a life which is governed by misfalls and misdoings, then that’s how it will end up being.
• Once again, GROW UP and smell the air around you. If you choose to get worked up over a nail that bites you, the crazy wagon will keep running into you with a tossed bunker every single step of your life (increases exponentially with your level of involvement). Know that you are just not getting it right.
• I wish not to repeat this again, but seriously GROW UP. Know your fact from your story. We package everything and mess ourselves up with the wraps. We’ve never grown out of a story we’ve made on people, things and almost all the time, our own meager selves. Grow out of your Story and work at gaining and comprehending Reality and what-is.

We’re openly blinded to the undivided picture of life. Get a grip ladies & gentlemen …

… Keep walking